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Problogger’s Group Writing Project

Posted by CJCM on 25th September 2006

I had commented on one of the posting, The Business Boxing Match:: Success vs. Failure by Wendy Piersall, the author of eMoms at Home blog. The blog is one of my favourite blogs that I frequently read. On top of that I am also a reguar visitor to ProBlogger authored by Darren Rowse. Both blogs are listed in my Blogroll.

Instead of replying to my comment in her blog, Wendy had the courtesy of personally thanking me via the email and at the same time asked whether I had participated in the ProBlogger group writing project that week. I didnt know about the project so I quickly went to over ProBlogger and found out more about the group writng project.

I made an instant decision to join and spend the next hour writing on How To Accept Mistakes and Dont Blame Others.

I had so much fun being part of the project, got to know a few other bloggers as a results of that and very happy with the publicity generated by just writing an article and submit it to the project.

Wendy…thank you for your email. I will definitely join the future group writing project run by ProBlogger.

For those who doesnt know about the project, you can read about it here.

I also list all the submissions here….all 343 submissions….great job Darren. Enjoy….

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How To Accept Mistakes and Dont Blame Others

Posted by CJCM on 20th September 2006

Everyone makes mistakes. Mistakes done by us can be caused by us ourselves or by third parties. Often times, we are easily led by our own self esteem and self defence to blame others around us for the mistakes we have committed.

In general, the thought of we are responsible for our own mistakes cannot be comprehended by most of us. This is normal for majority of human being, after all who wants to be blamed for any mistake, regardless of whether it is our or someone else’s mistakes?

However, having someone to blame for our mistakes does not solve the problem by itself and more often than not, it would only create more problem especially in the relationship with that person or everyone else around us.

The only solution to this is to find way for us to accept sole responsibility for our mistakes, learn from the incident, forgive ourselves and get on with lives, without severing any relationship you may already have with any third party. But how to achieve this?

As an example, let say you did not achieve something you want to have, because, from your analysis, someone else had done something he or she shouldnt have done in the first place. Instead of blaming he or she for that, you perform a root cause analysis trying to find the cause of your failure. Sure enough you will get to the point where that someone was the cause of the whole mistake. However, don’t just stop there. Go back one step further and try to think what you could have done to avoid that person from committing his mistakes causing you to lose your goal. Once you find all the possibilities of what you could have done to avoid that person’s mistakes, now you have someone else to blame….yourself…for not doing what you could have done.

You may ask whats the point if we blame ourselves for any mistakes we go through? There are many advantages of accepting mistakes, blame ourselves for it and get on with our lives.

1. Blaming ourselves for our failures avoids possible relationship-related problems with the third party which could only creates more problem making you prone to commit more mistakes.
2. We can train ourselves at finding the root-causes of every problem causing our mistakes, evaluate every possible actions we could have done, thereby presenting ourselves a chance to avoid similar problems in the future.
3. It is easier to forgive ourselves than to forgive others.

I can go on and on and on to list down all the advantages of blaming ourselves but I hope the three reasons above would give you some hints of what I am driving at.

So whatever bad things happen to you, always find out what you could have done to avoid it, blame yourselves for not doing it, forgive yourselves, and get on with lives.

I hope you enjoy this posting, and if you did not it was not your fault, I could have done much better by many other means but I didn’t, so this is my mistake. I will try better in my other posting.

Note:
This post has been submitted to ProBlogger in conjunction with ProBlogger Group Writing Project.

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